being enough 2.12.21

 Dear Students, 

As we move deeper into the module and the work begins to pile up, it's easy to feel overwhelmed. It's easy to doubt that we can keep up with the work, and do it well. 

Have you ever noticed that when your mind starts to doubt your abilities in one area, other doubts easily creep in? I'll never be able to do well on this exam leads to I don't know why I thought I could handle this major which leads to I'm not as smart as everyone else which leads to I don't belong here. 

It's like sliding down and down a slippery chute that ends in a pit lined with one terrible, shame-inducing thought: I'm not good enough. 

And that thought really hurts. It's the worst. It's not true, but it can feel true in the moment that it blossoms, down in that pit.

It might help to remember that "I'm not good enough" is something learned. It's not objectively true; it's something we picked up from childhood experiences, and from social and cultural messages. "I'm not good enough" is not about personal shortcomings; it's about a failure of our environment. 

It might also help to send the part of yourself that is feeling inadequate kindness and compassion. What would you say to a close friend, younger sibling, or even a beloved pet who is feeling this way? Take a few deep breaths to calm your upset feelings, close your eyes, and try offering yourself those same comforting words. 

You really are enough! Exactly the way you are, right now, in this challenging time and place, doing your very best with what you've got. It's enough.

If you need a reminder, or help believing us, call the Student Wellness Center for an appointment at 717-544-9051. 

Warmly, 

Lauren, Susan, Katharina, Meagan, Alexis, Kelly and Gene